My desire is to bring our inner dialog about death out into the open. There is so much we can learn from death. Death can be a spiritually healing experience for us. When we learn to embrace death, we no longer fear life. When we no longer live from fear we can love and live fully.
It is my hope that in teaching people to use death as a spiritual path we can:
- Gain peace of mind discussing death and dying with family and friends
- Be fully present at end of life with those we love
- Help survivers live life more fully, authentically and peacefully
Since my grandfather’s death, I’ve been called to assist in similar ways at end of life. I’ve been honored to walk with my Godfather who suddenly and unexpectedly died in March of 2016. His transition to the other side was graceful and chosen. He wasn’t coherent in this physical reality due to brain cancer, but his messages from the other side were very profound. His death revealed the Master of Love that he was, disguised as an ordinary hard working father and husband. Through him I learned about love and sacrifice.
At the time of my Godfather’s death, I had been working with a woman named Barbara for about 3 months. I had met her in the Fall of 2015. At that time her light was bright and she did not look like a woman who was dying, even though others said she was. She would work for many months more as she learned to let go of this material world, (oh, how she loved the beauty in this world!). She “became whole” and died a peaceful death on June 1st of 2016.
My walk with her to the other side revealed deep peace and profound love. She gifted me with two lessons during a conversation we had just two weeks before she died. She asked me never to forget them. The first lesson was, in her words, “All there is is love. It is all love.” The second lesson was the secret to living a good life. I’m paraphrasing her words, but they went something like this: “…life is only about choice. In each decision we make we can make a choice to see the light that is right above our heads or we can choose to stay in darkness…the time between birth and death is simply about experiences we have through making choices.” She added, “We can choose to go towards the light or not. Don’t forget that.”
What’s interesting to me is that I don’t do this work because it is my job. I am called to the side of those who need me and those I need. Each time I walk with death, I am given the opportunity to assist and be assisted. And each time I am touched by death, I lean more into my own life. So I continue to lean into this work, never knowing where I am going next. I’d love for you to join me.
© 2015-2018 Janis Underwood